Wisdom List: From the Experiental

Heart of Wisdom

Heart of Wisdom (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

As we age, we hopefully grow in wisdom, especially when it comes to the experiential.  No amount of words, explanations, pleadings, or arguments will equal what I know from having been a part of an action.

Experience dominates personal beliefs and behaviors.

Here’s a short list of what I know as an old lady:

  1. I can’t stay up late at night and not experience fatigue the next day.
  2. When I eat the wrong foods, I get sick and suffer–usually headaches, but sometimes stomach aches and a general feeling of grumpiness and malaise.
  3. Waiting to do things at the last moment will create crisis and chaos in my life.
  4. Being a couch potato for a whole day makes my body feel sluggish and my mind goes into the negative.
  5. Being kind to others brings joy to me.
  6. Being organized allows me to accomplish far more tasks with less fatigue.
  7. Sharing resources feels good.
  8. Sticking to my own determined code of honor gives me relief from making poor choices.  But sometimes personal codes collide with heart and head–which creates conflict and stress.
  9. Helping others is preferable to having little to no sense of self-value.
  10. Actions are greater than words.

Most four-year-olds have already started  formulating their own WISDOM LIST.  By the time they are five, most of the above items are beginning to show up in their behaviors.  How we “see” our children as they age and develop already began in their early years.

There are many more items to add to the above list.  Please feel free to add yours.

Be gentle with yourself and your children, for they are watching you.


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6 Responses to Wisdom List: From the Experiental

  1. patricemj says:

    Great list! I agree, the most learning comes through experience and you just can’t rush that 😉

    • dearfriends says:

      Hello Patrice–With me, sometimes it has taken more than one experience to teach me my lesson–sigh–thanks for visiting–Barb

      • patricemj says:

        Well, I’ve heard it’s a myth that experiences learned in one setting necessarily generalize to another. Interesting, huh? Every step we take is an act of learning 😉

      • dearfriends says:

        Hello Patrice, I just commented on this experience learning on another blog–a three year old can’t be held responsible for not being able to transfer experience from one setting to the next (She may know not to take everything out of the refrigerator, but she will not transfer that knowledge to not unloading the pantry shelves). The older (and hopefully wiser) we get, the more we have the cognitive ability to transfer the experiential knowledge to new endeavors. I know you know this, just wanted to expound for a moment. Thanks for the opportunity–Barb

      • patricemj says:

        Expound away 😉 I was surprised to hear that learning doesn’t necessarily generalize as much as we once thought it did…still, it must generalize some, I hope…

      • dearfriends says:

        Hello Patrice,
        With children under the age of 5, the ability to transfer experiences (and their consequences) is quite a challenge. Ways in which to help children learn how to transfer is to verbally (without censure or anger) make the transfer for them. Anticipate same type behavior and again, verbally reinforce the transfer. Use toys to reinforce the experience. For example: if the child loves to empty the shelves/refrigerator/pantry/etc)–use blocks and allow the child the knock them down, over and over again. Verbally reinforcing the permission to PLAY this way, but not to do the same thing throughout the house. It is a child’s most excellent form of learning–PLAY. Thanks for your comments, Barb

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