As we age, we hopefully grow in wisdom, especially when it comes to the experiential. No amount of words, explanations, pleadings, or arguments will equal what I know from having been a part of an action.
Experience dominates personal beliefs and behaviors.
Here’s a short list of what I know as an old lady:
- I can’t stay up late at night and not experience fatigue the next day.
- When I eat the wrong foods, I get sick and suffer–usually headaches, but sometimes stomach aches and a general feeling of grumpiness and malaise.
- Waiting to do things at the last moment will create crisis and chaos in my life.
- Being a couch potato for a whole day makes my body feel sluggish and my mind goes into the negative.
- Being kind to others brings joy to me.
- Being organized allows me to accomplish far more tasks with less fatigue.
- Sharing resources feels good.
- Sticking to my own determined code of honor gives me relief from making poor choices. But sometimes personal codes collide with heart and head–which creates conflict and stress.
- Helping others is preferable to having little to no sense of self-value.
- Actions are greater than words.
Most four-year-olds have already started formulating their own WISDOM LIST. By the time they are five, most of the above items are beginning to show up in their behaviors. How we “see” our children as they age and develop already began in their early years.
There are many more items to add to the above list. Please feel free to add yours.
Be gentle with yourself and your children, for they are watching you.